The Group

Loss and grief are universal human experiences that cause profound suffering. Unfortunately, most people are unaware of current research on bereavement and ways to promote healthy coping. The Group: Seven Widowed Fathers and Adaptation to Tragic Loss tackles this problem head-on. By chronicling the challenges and triumphs of a remarkable group of men who were left to raise young children after their wives died, this book offers a novel perspective and inspiration to anyone facing life's inevitable hardships. The Group is inspired by an innovative program at the University of North Carolina (UNC) at Chapel Hill. As directors of the Single Fathers Due to Cancer Program, the authors lead support groups for recently widowed fathers facing the simultaneous challenges of mourning their wives' deaths and raising their grieving children. The experiences of the seven men from the original support group - Karl, Neill, Bruce, Joe, Dan, Steven, and Russell - provide the raw material for this book. These men met monthly for four years and forged a tight bond. They encouraged each other through painful setbacks and celebrated increasingly frequent successes as sole parents. They also ¨gave back¨ to other fathers by helping to launch a research program on widowed parenthood and end-of-life supportive care for young parents. Their individual stories and shared experiences reveal important insights about coping with any kind of loss. As the support group matured, it became apparent that traditional approaches to bereavement were not helpful for these men. For example, the still widely accepted "five stages of grief" model, introduced by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 bestseller On Death and Dying, failed to capture the unique circumstances of widowed fatherhood. The bereavement field has made major advances over the past few decades; however, these insights about both normal and pathological grief have yet to penetrate the public's consciousness. This book integrates for the lay reader poignant narratives from the fathers in the support group with the latest advances in grief resolution, resilience, positive psychology, meaning-making, and post-traumatic growth. The Group is also rich with contemporary theory and data that one would expect from an academically-oriented book on grief and adaptation. This is a story being told for the first time that has relevance to anyone who has suffered a...