Becoming an Adult Stepchild

Becoming an Adult Stepchild is comprehensive, warm in tone, and eminently practical. I know because I am about to be married (next month) and recognize several of the issues Prilik raises and discusses in our four children who range in age from 19 to 39. This is a useful book! Jane Marks, Author of We Have a Problem: A Parent's Sourcebook Dr. Pearl Prilik has written a timely, well-conceived, informative book. Her style is clear, interesting, and extremely helpful. The lessons taught are lightened by one's sense of the twinkle in the author's eye. Becoming an Adult Stepchild: Adjusting to a Parent's New Marriage is a must read for all those having to deal with hazards and pitfalls of being an adult stepchild. Lorelle Saretsky, Ph.D., DirectorPostdoctoral Psychotherapy Center, Garden City, New York

The book provides invaluable advice on how to examine the underlying issues and feelings engendered by a parent's marriage and use this knowledge to reduce the inherent tension in this situation.

For many adult stepchildren, the marriage of a parent is a complicated situation fraught with emotional difficulties as the existing family structure is reshaped through the introduction of new members and the realignment of familial roles and relationships. A parent's marriage and the upheaval it generates can also mobilize long-buried feelings within adult stepchildren, including anger, betrayal, resentment, and a sense of deprivation.

Until now, the millions of adult stepchildren have not had a resource to help them address the psychological issues they face in this situation. Written by an expert with substantial experience in stepfamily life, Becoming an Adult Stepchild: Adjusting to a Parent's New Marriage provides invaluable advice on how to examine the underlying issues and feelings engendered by a parent's marriage and use this knowledge to reduce the inherent tension in this situation. In a caring and supportive manner, Dr. Prilik also urges readers to take advantage of the golden opportunities hidden in their parent's marriage, including

• Initiating positive personal growth
• Reconciling with an estranged parent
• Reconnecting with a parent in ways that may enhance closeness with him or her
• Making changes or taking risks to improve their lives
• Learning how to cope with uncertainty and change

Dr. Prilik begins each chapter by posing a few questions on specific subjects and situations that challenge readers to examine their feelings, attitudes, and behavior toward their parent's marriage. She then explores the underlying conflicts brought about by these particular circumstances and provides numerous vignettes to illustrate typical adult reactions to a parent's remarriage. She also offers many suggestions on how readers can reduce the tension and acrimony that can develop during this transition.

Armed with this awareness and practical advice, adult stepchildren can build more satisfying relationships within their new family structure and use this unique opportunity for profound personal growth.