Flourishing Love

‘My first two marriages were based on extreme self-sacrifice, a sense of overbearing duty, and the hope that I could live up to the religious values of my parents and grandparents. Of course, these relationships fell apart. I wish I would have read Flourishing Love in my early twenties and avoided unnecessary heartache. I am married again and, with Enrico Gnaulati’s help, giving lasting love another shot, this time with the understanding that settling into love is not the same as settling for less.’

-- John Kaag, Professor of Philosophy, University of Massachusetts Lowell and author of 'Hiking with Nietzsche: On Becoming Who You Are'

‘At last, a book on marriages that endure; one that stresses the depth and quality of relationships, along with their quantity in years. Enrico Gnaulati’s Flourishing Love is a breath of fresh air for those of us who have been blessed with enduring, quality marriages. In this era of quick fixes and fleeting encounters, Gnaulati’s voice is a welcome counternarrative, particularly for those who have become cynical about the virtues – or even possibilities – of gratifying, lasting bonds. Replete with examples and humanistic sensibilities, Flourishing Love is a must for anyone yearning for deep and enduring partnership.’

-- Kirk Schneider, President of the Existential-Humanistic Institute and author of 'Life-Enhancing Anxiety: Key to a Sane World'

‘With humor, frankness, and wisdom born of deep personal and therapeutic experience, Enrico Gnaulati – in equal parts philosopher and psychologist – teaches us how to be better lovers and partners. Every married couple should read this book in bed together. Belongs on the bedside table with Stendhal’s On Love and The Joy of Sex.’

-- Clancy Martin, Professor of Philosophy, University of Missouri–Kansas City and author of 'How Not to Kill Yourself: A Portrait of the Suicidal Mind'

'Enrico Gnaulati delivers a clear and comprehensive guide to flourishing long-lasting intimate relationships in a witty and approachable style. [...] Flourishing Love: A Secular Guide to Lasting Intimate Relationships is a frank and grounded self-help book. The use of cultural references, comedian’s quips and anecdotes opens up the conversation while highlighting that anyone that may be experiencing these problems are far from alone. The guidance offered promotes mutual respect and communication, the path to a flourishing relationship is laid out in a way that feels not only approachable but achievable. I wouldn’t say that there were any ground-breaking claims made throughout the book, but it serves as a potent reminder that not neglecting the little things is vital in a successful relationship. A book for those in a relationship to refresh and assess their foundations and an interesting read for those looking for a relationship to guide them moving forward.'

-- LoveReading, 2023

'Gnaulati, pulls from an exceptionally wide range of literature, clinical experience, and his own life to build the readers agency to write or rewrite their own conceptualization of life, love, and successful relationships. Written with a clear audience in mind Gnaulati is precise in his goal of empowering emerging to early adults to find their own narrative around relationships that serves their own relational goals. [...] As a clinician, this book is light on theory but well researched and full of interesting studies and philosophical insights about human relationships. The writing is pragmatic, engaging, and thoughtful. Gnaulati strikes a non-judgmental tone to create a space for the reader to consider their own experiences in the context and framework of the book's narrative.'

-- McKenna Walsh, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy,