The Dry Season
Finding Pleasure in a Year Without Sex
Format:Hardback
Publisher:Canongate Books
Published:5th Jun '25
Should be back in stock very soon

'Brilliant and powerful' ELIZABETH GILBERT
'So full of wisdom and pleasure that you don't want it to end' MAGGIE NELSON
'Only Melissa Febos could convince us of the ecstasy of abstinence' KATHERINE MAY
A Vogue, TIME and Vulture 'most anticipated' book of 2025
In the wake of a disastrous two-year relationship, Melissa Febos decided to take a break - for three months she would abstain from dating, relationships and sex. Her friends were amused. Did she really think three months was a long time? But to Melissa, it was. Ever since her teens, she had been in one relationship or another. It was time to focus on herself and examine the lifelong patterns that had got her to this point. When those three months ended, she decided to extend her celibate period, fearing that she had not yet gained the clarity she was searching for. She knew she was taking on a challenge but had no idea that this year would become the most fulfilling and sensual of her life.
No longer defined by her romantic pursuits, Melissa learned to relish the delights of solitude, the thrill of living on her own terms, the pleasures unmediated by lovers and the freedom to pursue her ideals without distraction or guilt. She began to see her life and her self-worth in a radical new way. Her year of divestment transformed her relationships with friends and peers, her work, creativity - and most of all her relationship to herself.
The Dry Season is a memoir of Melissa's year of celibacy, and a profound exploration of independence, sexuality and deep self-knowledge.
A proven chronicler of her own desire, Febos changes tack here, charting a year of celibacy . . . a queer slant adds freshness, while the frisson between the topic's supposed austerity and the pleasure afforded by such candid prose makes it all the more compelling * * Observer * *
[An] interesting, often witty work . . . Refreshing * * Sunday Times * *
Melissa Febos has a taste for extremes. Her new book, The Dry Season, chronicles a bold experiment in her search for self-knowledge . . . Throughout, she posed a potentially radical question: What if all that a woman needs to be happy is herself? * * New York Times * *
Reading The Dry Season is like having a nourishing conversation with a smart, wry and ever-probing friend - a conversation so full of wisdom and pleasure that you don't want it to end. The example of Febos's commitment throughout these pages is inspiring and rare; we're lucky and better off for it -- MAGGIE NELSON, author of THE ARGONAUTS
Beautiful . . . One of the most interesting parts of the book is reading about how celibacy, for women throughout history, has been this pathway for freedom of thought -- EMILY RATAJKOWSKI
The Dry Season is a brilliant and powerful meditation upon addiction, desire, seduction and the undervalued (and all-too-unexplored) power of a woman laying claim to a period of celibacy [ . . . ]. Febos is both unflinching and compassionate. A deeply important book, I saw myself and many women whom I love and admire on every page -- ELIZABETH GILBERT, author of EAT, PRAY, LOVE
As a queer memoirist, Febos provides a sorely needed perspective on the cultural trope of the "incel," presenting instead a model for celibacy that is self-guided rather than socially imposed and compassionate rather than punitive; this book should be required reading for anyone who's ever been told to "just take a break" from relationships * * Vogue * *
Only Melissa Febos could convince us of the ecstasy of abstinence. She never fails in her candour and precision -- KATHERINE MAY, author of WINTERING
Who knew that a memoir of celibacy could be so stirring? A thoughtful, exacting study of the loss of self - both transcendent and self-abnegatory - that comes with desire. Melissa Febos teaches us that strength comes from vulnerability, and how a keen mind feels but also dissects -- CAL FLYN, author of ISLANDS OF ABANDONMENT
Panoramic yet whisper-close, so funny, exquisitely alive - radiant with ideas new and ancient like stars in a clear night sky -- JEREMY ATHERTON LIN, author of DEEP HOUSE
ISBN: 9781837260096
Dimensions: 220mm x 141mm x 24mm
Weight: 395g
288 pages
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