A Thousand Kisses Deep

When conflict becomes the norm, relationships begin to break down. This practical guide helps couples understand recurring patterns, work with emotional reactivity, and transform conflict into deeper connection—combining psychological insight with Buddhist wisdom for lasting change.

“We gather up our hearts and go / A thousand kisses deep.” —Leonard Cohen

What does it mean to love deeply—without losing ourselves in the process?

A Thousand Kisses Deep is a practical and insightful guide to love, relationship, and emotional growth, blending Buddhist wisdom with the realities of modern partnership. It speaks directly to those navigating connection, conflict, desire, and change.

In Part One, Shantigarbha explores the foundations of love—loving-kindness, compassion, friendship, and the opening of the heart. In Part Two, these insights are brought into intimate relationships, where love becomes a living, evolving practice.

Through themes of self-love, communication, conflict, and loss, this book offers clear guidance for working with the challenges that arise when we come close to another person.

Drawing on Buddhist teachings, lived experience, and nonviolent communication, A Thousand Kisses Deep helps transform reactive patterns into deeper understanding, connection, and care.