Loving Arrangements
Stories About Modern Living and Loving
Nan Bauer-Maglin author Nan Bauer-Maglin editor
Format:Hardback
Publisher:Rutgers University Press
Publishing:9th Jun '26
£20.99
This title is due to be published on 9th June, and will be despatched as soon as possible.

Love songs and Hollywood romances make it all sound so simple: You find your soul mate, move in together, get married, never stray from the path of monogamy, and live happily ever after. But real life tends to be more complicated. Many couples pursue alternative living arrangements, and some even pursue alternative loving arrangements.
The twenty-nine personal essays in this collection offer a variety of perspectives and experiences with nontraditional relationships and forms of cohabitation. The contributors include married couples who live in separate cities and single people who find companionship through communes and cohousing. These essays also present varied outlooks on the practice and ethics of having multiple partners, with some embracing large polycules while others opt for "monogamish" relationships. Everyone has a different story to tell, from close friends living together to form a chosen family to couples navigating the shifting boundaries of their relationship as one partner begins a gender transition. With contributors across generations and representing the full ethnic and cultural diversity of the United States, Loving Arrangements demonstrates the myriad ways that we live and love today.
"Loving Arrangements is a beautifully curated, generous, and deeply human collection that captures the shifting landscape of intimacy with honesty, nuance, and grace. These courageous essays challenge old assumptions while illuminating the creativity with which people craft relationships that reflect their needs, values, and evolving identities. By bringing together voices across generations, cultures, and orientations, Bauer-Maglin and Hood highlight not only how love changes, but how we change with it. Moving and thought-provoking, this collection offers a refreshing celebration of the many ways people live, love, and belong in an increasingly complex world." - Angelos Bollas, author of Contemporary Irish Masculinities: Male Homosociality in Sally Rooney's Novels
"A fascinating collection of personal essays that shines a light on the joys, complexities, and realities of doing relationships 'differently.'" - Ryan Scoats, author of Understanding Threesomes: Gender, Sex, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
"Loving Arrangements is the book that says out loud what so many of us know privately: the old rulebook is cracking, and people are courageously writing new ones. This is a compassionate, smart, and deeply human collection that expands our understanding of love, intimacy, and commitment. For anyone rethinking their relationship structure, Loving Arrangements is a powerful guide to what modern love really looks like." - Joe Kort, author of Side Guys: It's Still Sex Even If You Don't Have Intercourse
"The contributors to this collection provide enlightening, engaging, and profoundly candid reflections on marriage, sex, cohabitation, partnership, polyamory, and the myriad other relationship styles they pursued. Each essay or poem is highly personal, reflecting a variety of life stages and experiences. Yet the book is greater than the sum of its parts. While a deluge of recent news reports portend the end of marriage and the death of intimacy, Loving Arrangements amplifies alternative narratives by individuals who pursued authentic intimate connections on their own terms." - Rebecca L. Davis author of Fierce Desires: A New History of Sex and Sexuality in America
"Loving Arrangements is a collection of first-person accounts of how some people live and love in the modern world. Its contributors have lived their fair share of relationships, both good and bad, some that worked and those that have not. Some essays are funny, some surprising, but all reflect some degree of courage in sharing the complexity of private lives today." - Jack Drescher, clinical professor of psychiatry, Columbia University
ISBN: 9781978844544
Dimensions: 229mm x 152mm x 28mm
Weight: 567g
286 pages