Unorthodox

Deborah Feldman's Unorthodox recounts her journey of escaping a strict Hasidic community, exploring themes of identity and freedom.

In Unorthodox, Deborah Feldman shares her powerful memoir about escaping the confines of a strict Hasidic community. Growing up in the Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism, she faced an upbringing dominated by rigid customs that dictated every aspect of her life, from her clothing choices to her social interactions. Despite these constraints, Deborah nurtured her independent spirit, often finding solace in the literary worlds created by authors like Jane Austen and Louisa May Alcott. These stories ignited her imagination and inspired her to seek a different life beyond the limitations imposed on her.

The narrative takes a poignant turn as Deborah enters into a tumultuous marriage at a young age, grappling with the emotional and sexual dysfunction that characterizes her relationship. The birth of her son at nineteen becomes a pivotal moment, prompting her to confront the stark reality of her situation. As she navigates the tension between her desires for personal freedom and her responsibilities as a mother, Deborah embarks on a courageous journey towards self-discovery and liberation.

Unorthodox is not just a memoir; it’s a compelling coming-of-age story that resonates with anyone who has ever felt trapped by societal expectations. With a new afterword reflecting on her life post-escape, Feldman’s story is both remarkable and inspiring, offering insights into the complexities of identity, faith, and the pursuit of happiness.